Are You Really Ready to Move In Together? Here’s How to Know

Moving in together is exciting, right? It’s the next step in your relationship, a huge milestone, and a sign that things are getting serious. But here’s the truth—just because it feels right doesn’t mean you’ve crossed all the “readiness” boxes.

It’s easy to get swept up in the excitement of sharing a space, picking out furniture, and imagining all the cozy nights in. But before you start looking at couches, ask yourself: Are we truly ready for this?

Living together is more than just about splitting rent or sharing a Netflix account—it’s about navigating a deeper level of intimacy, compromise, and growth as a couple. The transition from dating to cohabitating can be a big one, and it can come with its own challenges. But with the right preparation, it can also be the smoothest and most fulfilling transition you’ve made together.

Why It’s More Than Just the Practical Stuff

When most people think about moving in together, they picture the practicalities: finding the perfect place, splitting chores, figuring out finances. But these aren’t the only things that matter. The emotional side of moving in is just as important—if not more so.

There’s an emotional shift that happens when two people share a home. It’s not just about merging belongings or decorating a space—it’s about merging lives, values, and expectations. It’s about creating a balance of shared and separate spaces, blending routines, and navigating challenges together.

If you haven’t had the tough conversations yet, now is the time. Do you both have the same vision for your future? Are your communication styles compatible? Do you have similar values when it comes to money, family, and long-term goals? These are the things that will keep your relationship strong once you’re living under the same roof.

The Importance of Assessing Readiness

You may feel 100% confident that living together is the right move—but there’s something powerful about slowing down and asking the tough questions. It’s not about doubting your relationship—it’s about laying a solid foundation so that when challenges arise, you’re equipped to handle them.

I created the Moving In Together: Comprehensive Readiness Journal to help couples like you assess not just the “practical” aspects of living together, but also the emotional and mental readiness that is often overlooked.

This journal isn’t about telling you what to do—it’s about giving you the space to explore your individual and collective readiness. It’s designed to help you navigate those deep conversations about everything from core values and communication styles to conflict resolution and finances.

You’ll find 47 pages of thought-provoking prompts, activities, and reflections that will guide you both through the process of understanding whether living together is the right decision for your relationship, and how you can make it a success.

It’s About Building a Strong Foundation Together

Moving in together is an opportunity to strengthen your bond and grow together as a couple. But before you take that step, it’s essential to ensure that both partners are aligned and ready for the big changes it will bring.

Having open and honest conversations about your goals, expectations, and values is key. Use the journal as a way to start those conversations and explore how you’ll handle the emotional, logistical, and relational aspects of living together.

The decision to live together isn’t one to rush. It’s okay to take your time and reflect on what you both truly want and need from this next phase of your relationship. And if you’re feeling unsure, remember—it’s okay to press pause, take a step back, and process your feelings. The right time will come.

What You should know about each other before moving in:

1️⃣ Living Preferences: How much personal space do you both need? Find your balance.
2️⃣ Chores: Who’s taking care of what? No one wants to feel like they’re cooking every meal AND doing all the dishes.
3️⃣ Money Matters: Budgeting, splitting bills, and future goals—this convo is a non-negotiable.
4️⃣ Conflict Resolution: How will you handle disagreements? Spoiler: Avoiding them doesn’t work.
5️⃣ Future Goals: Are you aligned on what’s next—marriage, kids, moving to a new city?
6️⃣ Social Balance: How do you keep your friendships and family time thriving while living together?
7️⃣ Boundaries & Intimacy: Sharing a home doesn’t mean sharing everything. 

Are You Ready? Let’s Find Out Together

The Moving In Together: Comprehensive Readiness Journal was created to help guide you through this exciting but significant transition. Whether you're considering moving in together now or in the future, this journal is a tool that will help you and your partner get clear on your readiness for this next chapter.

If you’re unsure, you’re not alone. Take a breath, grab a cup of tea, and dive into the journal together. Reflect on your values, your communication, and your future goals. And most importantly, trust yourselves to make the decision that’s right for you and your relationship—no matter what.

Have you and your partner had these conversations yet? What was the most important thing you learned about each other during the process? Share your thoughts with me—I’d love to hear how you’re navigating this exciting journey.